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By SxcBabeOz
If you can afford it, I think you should *definitely* see a counsellor.

That one-on-one face-to-face communication with a professional can work wonders (as I found out myself).

I don't know what counsellors in your area would charge but if you go to The Australian Counselling Association there's a find a counsellor link there. Some even do skype counselling these days if you don't want to leave the house.

I agree with what another person said above too about documenting everything in case there are legal troubles ahead - without documentation life can be pretty hard in court. A friend used love Law to find a lawyer and it helped her quite a bit apparently.

Hang in there :)
By SallyByron
Hi, I'm recently single and sole parenting my 16 month old daughter. I had to find the strength to challenge my ex about how he really felt about me, even though I knew it would end in separation. That was so tough. It's really hard to take that first step in the right direction. I've just found a tiny home for us and am trying to establish a rhythm as he comes down every weekend. I feel free as I'm not in a relationship that wasn't fulfilling me, but also very burdened by what has happened. Plus grieving the loss of my relationship. I really feel for you, this is a very hard road for us, but I'm hoping there will be beautiful times ahead.