Every one of us is in a different situation, and has different circumstances and resources, and it is no-one's right to judge any of the others.
With the changes to the Grandfathered Parenting Payment coming in on 1st January, I have been following posts by people affected by this, and have been really taken aback by some of the comments...some by people affected and some by people who were never fortunate enough to be on this payment.
But to those of you who tell others to shape up and go out and get a job, or retrain, or whatever, as they have done....praise to you for getting through in such a tough situation and picking up the pieces so well...but please don't put down others because they are upset about having been put onto Newstart, or losing their benefits altogether as they earn just over the cut-off limit. These people have organised their lives...their work arrangements, their living arrangements, their budgets, even taken on financial commitments, for anything up to eight years ahead, with the "knowledge" that they would be on Parenting Payment for that period. This change came in with only six month's notice. Of course they are upset, as would you be.
When the new Parenting Payment came into effect in 2006 I was horrified about that too, even though it didn't affect me, as I believed it was wrong to make a mother with an 8 year old child go back to work.
And yes, I do work, both out of necessity and because it was required of me by the terms of my Parenting Payment...though only 15 hours part time, as both of my children have emotional illnesses, and so I have to be available to take them to numerous medical appointments, and school and hospital visits, at any time throughout the week...and fortunately, to this stage, my employer has been extremely understanding. In a perfect world I would be with my children all the time, as this is very hard on them.
But this post is not about me, as, although managing will be very difficult for us with the loss of Parenting Payment, I know that we are actually much better off than so many people on here...This is about all the single mums on here who are struggling with all of the issues that single motherhood brings up for both them and their children, some of whom are in really desperate situations.
Nothing is ever as simple as it appears, and it is not right to judge others when you don't know exactly what they have been through, or what they are facing.
If you don't like what you read on here when people are seeking help and support, then make your own site, maybe called "Independent Single Mothers", so that you can all discuss your, possibly very different, issues.
But while you are on here...please...don't judge anyone until you have "walked a mile in their shoes".