Of course no one has a problem with a man such as this being in the life of his child. Who would?? Unfortunately exes such as this one are very few and far between. It makes me sad for myself and my child, and all the other mums and children who are forced into sharing their lives with men who get off on abusing and manipulating in every covert way they know how because of their own psycological issues which courts and society in general like to completely ignore. After all, if they are not sexually abusing or beating a child to within an inch of their lives, they must be a great dad!
I understand mums who wish that their child's father would be more involved - they are good mums who want what they believe is best for their child. But having the experiences I have had and seeing the pain that has been caused to my child by a father who refuses to go away, who hovers and clings and controls, who emotionally abuses to fulfil his own needs and self interest, I would have to say I would prefer the other. I have heard people comment on what a great dad my ex must be because he is "so involved". But then, people really only ever see the surface, don't they? No one seems to realise that just because something doesn't go away doesn't make it good - bad smells, cockroaches and germ laden flies like to hang around too.
I don't think any sane mother who has a non-abusive ex would stop the children from seeing their father. But when a mother does stop this, I think society as a whole needs to realise that there are very valid reasons. Unfortunately, people love to assume they know what's going on and pass judgement when in reality, they know very little of the real situation.