So I thought Id never trust or look another man for the rest of my life. I was angry and very hurt by my husband and every other man Ive ever dated prior to getting engaged-married, and then being left to raise a toddler with little help.
So I guess Im at the tail end of that grieving process now and I have started seeing a nice Australian Asian guy who is a divorcee and a father to little ones.
I have many friends over the years from many different cultures but never have spoken about inter-dating if thats the term to use.
Obviously I still have some issues regarding trust etc...(hence him saying that he feels his being punished for the way other men have treated me in the past)
So I cant figure out if his a really nice genuine guy or just a really good player?
As I have never dated a Asian man before its all new to me?
Its only been 6 weeks and we live a 1 hour apart and he travels down twice a week to visit for dinner before returning home for work the next day,he rings me twice during the day and maybe twice again after work which some calls can be hours (for once Im not doing all the talking lol)
But he seems very committed to helping out family and friends when needed. Traditionally you cant say straight 'no' or 'maybe', but his very "Occa":)
He has met my mother on a couple of occasions and has bought her chocolates etc.. for looking after my little one when we have gone out. So his not avoiding meeting my family, he takes interest when I talk about my family and remembers everything.
But I havent met anyone in his family, he has mentioned that they getting curious about the girl his seeing??
He has said lets not rush the relationship as obviously that hasnt worked for me in my previous relationships which is true, and that when he does take me home that he wants to be a 100% certain about the relationship.
Tradition is the his mother lives with the youngest son which is him, when his ex left she did really hurt him and his family (shes of Mediterranean background)
I did let this eat me up a for a little while only seeing him briefly twice a week and decided just to go with the the flow.
He does continually talk about the future 'if's' (I have pulled him up on this a couple of times about this about getting expectations up)he said his just making sure we are on the same page as he doesnt like wasting time which is fair enough Im sure alot of people feel the same.
He is amazing with my little guy, when he leaves theres always lots of tears
In 6 weeks he has made so many positive changes to my life that I had not achieved in the 12 months since I left my martial home. My unit is finally in order, little one is finally 2 and in childcare so Im looking for work, Im coping better when I do see my ex (still angry with him,we dont talk no eye contact),Im making a effort to get up and do my hair and makeup and look good, generally feeling alot happier.
Can anyone shed some light on the dating thing?